My roommate and sweet, sweet friend recently got engaged and it truly is an amazing thing. It's such an exciting time for all of us and especially her. I love seeing her face late up when she realizes she is finally getting married. It's such a relief too because her and her feónce have been dating for six years! And they were close friends with mutual feelings for two years before that. They've had difficult times, moments of doubt as to whether their relationship was what God wanted for them ultimately it has proved true and is more inspiring than any other relationship I've witnessed in my short years. In the midst of all these years they never made their friends uncomfortable, always thinking of others before themselves. I loved how we could go out with them and not feel like a third wheel and just have a good time! Both would engage in conversation with everyone and they were never "doe eyed" with each other making our time together uncomfortable.
Several times I'd spoken with my roommate about relationships often when one of us (mostly me) was at a low point emotionally. She would wonder if her boyfriend would ever propose and I wondered if I would ever get a boyfriend.
As for me? I've been single all my life, which isn't long since I'm only 24 but I often get discouraged when people look at me odd, "Never? Not at all?", "Don't you want to know what a relationship is like before you find the right guy?"
Truth is I chose to be single, waiting for God to bring who He desires in my life trusting my relationship with God with be adequate enough. I've chosen not to have a string of relationships in my past as baggage to bring into my future marriage. Hopefully my future husband will appreciate that but most importantly, I hope it honors and glorifies the Lord.
As my roommate and I were talking the other night about all the exciting things she gets to plan now that she is engaged she mentioned something that days later I realized may actually be a highlight in my own life. Her words were,
"I can see my patience is finally paying off."
She began listing all the. Leasing the Lord has allowed since the engagement and it's only been a week! Those words really resonated with me though.
Often I get so discouraged about being single, more than I care to admit. "He will only be an ordinary guy," I'll think, "no one could ever love me like (insert friends who are dating here).", "he will probably regret ever choosing me," "what's the point of waiting when it's only going to be sub-par?"
"My patience is finally paying off."
It hit me this morning. God is having me wait for a reason! Not because he's chosen Mr. Mediocre so we can live life decently. He has placed me in a time of waiting because He is preparing the best for me, so we can live life as amazing examples for His glory! My patience will pay off.
You see, God loves is and He wants the best for us, specific to our needs. If you are single and it brings you Darrow think about it, don't lose hope! God has someone He is preparing for you. Someone He is turning into a man or woman of God to come alongside of you and further Bis kingdom. Your patience will pay off and that abundantly.
James 1:4 "But let patience have its perfect work, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking nothing."